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Why some friendships end - no matter how much you want that friends to last.
The only danger in Friendship is that it will end. -- Henry David Thoreau
Why do an friendship end when you need that
friendhsip to last? Its a mystry of friendship. As quoted above If there
is a friendship it will end at one point or other. But why it is ending
when things going perfectly with both friends. Lets see the Insights here as to why friendships end.
Situations face by friends
Simple answer and also commonly accepted answer is
friendships end because of the situations the friends are into or even the friends themselves change. mostly all friends will accept this. As time is
an important factor for building friendships, Situation is the important factor in end of friendship. The situations faced by two friends may
differ from persons. one friend may relocate for higher studies or job can't help but it will affect friendships. The new friends circle formed
may make the persons to end the friendships in the past. Does friendships need to end because of these unpredictable changes?
Not certainly, but it'll require adjustments that one or both friends may not willing to make.
Friends may Change
Second, the friends themselves may change. A significant reason that friendships often end when friends are apart for
an extended period of time (for summer camp, college, etc) is that one or both of the friends change. I think it hurts less when both friends
change, because then the breakup is more often mutual and so both friends get closure by both deciding to let go and move forward in their lives
without each other. What tends to hurt most is when just one friend changes. One friend might change social circles, become involved in new
social organizations, start to date, get a pet, or take on some other venture that consumes more time and passion. Again, a friendship can
endure these changes, unless one or both of the friends for some reason decide not to invest the time and energy involved in the adjustment
period. (For example, one friend might forget the importance of the friendship due to the high of having a new pet or might feel that the
change is impossible to overcome when one gets married but the other is still single.) In this situation, breakups may not be mutual and so one or
both friends feel betrayed and end up with bitter memories about what was a precious friendship to them.
There are other reasons why friendships end. For example, as much as two people might want a friendship to survive, one or
both of them might unintentionally neglect it. Friendship is often compared to a flower garden. Well, if flowers don’t get exposed regularly
enough to sunlight and don’t get watered enough, flowers will wither and even die. The same applies to friendship. If week after week passes where
plans are made to spend time together but are never honored, perhaps due to taking a friendship for granted, eventually even the closest of friendships may cease to have a reason to exist.
Conflicts can also cause the end of friendships. If the flower is a fledging plant, one blow might destroy it just as
sometimes relatively young friendships aren't strong enough to endure much conflict. Even those amazing close friendships, where friends love us no
matter what are faults are, need care when it comes to conflicts. Sure, if a flourishing flower gets stepped on, it might revive on its own.
Moreover, it if gets a little extra special care, it’ll probably bounce back as if it hadn’t ever been injured. At the same time, if a flower gets
repeatedly trampled on, it’ll probably eventually break. Especially the friendships that have been around for a long time can endure storms, and
even become stronger for them, but most friendships have breaking points.
Okay, we know that friendships can end for many reasons, but now what? Can we change their course and turn them into friendships that last? Find out in Making Friendships Last.
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