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The Art of Flirting
Did you ever see a Tarzan flick? Gotta love it! Poor Jane didn't have time to flirt with Tarzan, at least, not until after he had successfully demolished an entire tribe, wrestled an alligator and made his famous war cry. Even then, poor Tarzan didn't quite understand it when she lowered her lashes slightly and gave a secret little smile to him.
Flirting. Oh, but there is definitely an art to it.
I recently did an online quiz on flirting. I don't know how I ever managed to get married. My score was in the negative to 10 points! Of course, it has been so many years since I last flirted that maybe I have forgotten how to flirt. Yes! That is the answer to my pitiful score. Why should I have to know how to flirt anymore? I have the man I want. Still, it galls me to know I did so poorly but I will get over it.
As a writer though, don't I need to know how to let my heroine flirt? Of course I do, if that is part of her personality. Flirting can be overt, subtle or even subconscious. Some women don't even know when they are doing it. They are natural at it. But after doing the quiz, I realized that flirting has definitely changed over the years. Especially in the past ten years.
The basic principle is the same, but a few of the techniques have become different. Two-thirds of women make the initial contact. Here are the strategies the online quiz recommended. I hope you print this because if your heroine is anything like me, she is going to need it!
1. Playing hard to get is still the smartest strategy. Men love the chase. 2. Bedroom eyes are considered alluring when the pupils are dilated. Men love big eyes. 3. Smiling at him first. Men feel more comfortable to approach. 4. Dancing alone to music. You are alone and confident. Men like that. 5. Looking at him and flipping your hair. The universal "come nibble my neck" signal. 6. "Accidentally" brushing up against him. Men react like a cat getting stroked. 7. Nodding at him first. Again, the signal that you are willing for them to approach you. 8. Licking your lips during eye contact. Oh, they know what that means and so do you. 9. Dancing with a "geek". If a man considers you will turn him down, if he sees you dance with a "geek", he will feel more confident.
Now, I have to tell you patting his buttocks was mentioned. Personally I have never had the nerve to be so bold, and let me assure you I am quite a bold woman. And of all things, rock climbing was considered the best choice for a first-date destination if you really, really, really want to get a guy to fall for you. Not literally, I pray.
So, when considering what your heroine should do to attract her ‘Tarzan', remember that flirting is an art. I am sure your ‘Jane' will do well with some of the techniques mentioned above. Just don't have her patting his buttocks as they are rock climbing.
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